The Do’s and don’ts of social media

At RCL we know emotions run high in Family Court cases. Often our clients, understandably, feel hurt, angry, and betrayed. However, we urge all of our clients to refrain from voicing their feelings on social media. Why? Because in our experience it can hurt your case.

It is not uncommon for people to seek validation through social media, mainly because it enables most of us to find individuals who are able to sympathize and relate to whatever we are going through. However, in family law cases, social media posts often end up as exhibits in Court. Just as your emotions are running high, so are the other individual’s. If you think they are not watching your social media, you are wrong - though we should be clear, this is not an endorsement to stalk your ex’s social accounts! Even if you are not friends with them or their family, messages are often relayed via third parties. This can lead to a complete breakdown of cooperation in cases and often force a case that would have otherwise had an amicable settlement, into Court. Even if baited, don’t bite.

Let us be clear, we are not telling you to refrain from expressing your emotions by any means. It is important to have healthy outlets. We suggest speaking to therapists, life coaches, support groups, and your attorney - individuals certain not to betray your confidence. The rule of thumb is: If you do not want something to come up in Court, don’t put it on social media!

When it comes to social media, there are things you should be routinely checking, however. One of the main things to be checking are the social media accounts of your children. Your children’s social media accounts will likely tell you how they are feeling as well as inform you of what they might be doing when they are not in your care. The content might help you determine if your children need a therapist or even a Friend of Court or a Guardian Ad Litem (follow the link for more information of FOCs and GALs).

In a world where everyone posts everything on social media, do yourself a favor and stay off of it! It will not make you feel any better nor will it benefit your case.

If you need help with your divorce or custody action, give us a call today.